Intimidating or ugly
I mean, it seems like there should be some very basic science pertaining to this issue, no? There remains an overwhelming abundance of support for the proposition that guys like girls who are hot, smart, awesome, and fun to hang out with, such that they will remain in relationships with girls who they believe meet those criteria and will reject those who don’t. We had genuinely similar interests and there was palpable chemistry between us.
Not to mention, every time he brought me around his friends, one or two of them would pull me aside and tell me what a great girl I was and that they were glad he was dating someone like me.
My voice is deep, which apparently makes me less desirable to men.
My eye color isn’t interesting, and my hair is always feral.
“Online dating is just awkward,” my cute co-worker scrunches her nose. “Classically attractive” women have more difficulty online dating.
“I get that they’re not looking for love, but aren’t they trying to hook up? Given the competitive nature of the medium, some men assume if a woman is too attractive, she may be inundated with prospects.
You know, the kinds of girls who think they’re coming across as totally hot and athletic when they post a Facebook status update about going to the gym, notwithstanding the fact that they’re 15 pounds overweight and probably consumed more calories in Smart Water than they burned on the elliptical (while flipping through the pages of magazine, of course).
The type who is practically the poster child for He’s Just Not That Into You used to seem to me to be the most likely to over- and misuse the excuse of intimidation when consoling herself in the face of heartbreak.
I have pock-marked skin, hooded eyes, and a bulbous nose.However, now that I’ve come to the repeated conclusion that intimidation played a role in my recent failed dating endeavors, I feel like maybe I should rethink my stance—especially because in all of those cases that explanation seemed completely likely and totally logical.